Your Cheating Heart: Why We Breakup With Our Stylists
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Have you ever cheated on your stylist? I just did and not only on my stylist, but on my salon.
I had to ask myself a few questions that I will share with you. These questions not only helped me as a stylist but as an Educator.
1. Why cheat? ~ Our relationship with our stylists is very much like any of our relationships. We crave something fresh, a new perspective and special care.
2. What’s wrong the stylist/client relationship? ~ Often, we get comfortable and focus on the conversation and less and less about the complete service including the cut/style.
3. What does the client do to limit change? ~ We can try to take charge of what we want and not be able to listen or are scared of a drastic change. This comes from past experiences.
4. What does the stylist do to limit change? ~ We either take too much off thinking we know best. Or sometimes we buy into our client’s comfort zone.
My issue was probably that I dictate too much of what I want and don’t want. This literally creates no options but a tiny trim. My past experiences often lead me to having my hair repeatedly chopped off –“’Cause you look so great with short hair!”– and then I am left to grow it out for months. Sometimes the stylists have known me for so long that it’s hard for them to visualize something new.
How do we manage cheating on our stylist?
We welcome cheating and allow for another stylists to benefit from the rewards of creating a new look instead of spending a few extra minutes on a consultation. Regardless of how well we know someone, take the time to connect. What do you love about your current style? What do you love in others hair? Look at images to see what excites you both. Every appointment should have a consultation and a small change in the cut. I call it “Variation On The Theme.” This way you are forced to keep the relationship fresh and keep your creativity growing.
Thank you for sharing in my experience… I love my new cut. I love the amazing and talented stylists that I work with. I learned so much, and this keeps me inspired and happy.
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