Cuddle or Sleep? Understanding Post Sex Behaviors
Those minutes after sex are vital to a budding relationship. Do you cuddle and chat with your partner, or do you fall asleep? You probably worry about lulls in conversation, or feel extremely sleepy from the night’s activity, but falling asleep before your partner could have long-term repercussions in your relationship.
According to a study by evolutionary psychologists at University of Michigan and Pennsylvania’s Albright College, post-sex behaviors can reveal how much each partner desires to bond with the other. The researchers studied 456 couples and found that the person that fell asleep first left their partner awake and with an intense desire to bond with his or her lover.
Daniel Kruger, the lead author of the study, said “The more one’s partner was likely to fall asleep after sex, the stronger the desire for bonding.”
Many of you reading this may assume that men fall asleep first while women are left chomping at the bit to release their “feelings” during pillow-talk. However, the study points out that this assumption is wrong.
“Despite the common stereotype, the researchers did not find it more common for men to fall asleep first after sex,” Science Daily reported. “Women, however, were more likely to fall asleep first when sex hadn’t taken place.”
If relationships are a game, falling asleep first could be an intelligent maneuver for a person to avoid the awkward post-sex chit chat. But if you have a tendency to snore, drool, or talk in your sleep, you may want to let your partner fall asleep first–especially in a new relationship.